I think most anyone who's spent a long period of time in fandom has.

We all paid our dues, and I just hope that we learned from it and can recognize the signs of when we get into an oogy situation now. And it is hard, because of all the things that have been hashed out here in comments. But I think it's an important thing to get out there and discuss.

I think finding that place where you fit in is the most important thing. *hugs*

Don't worry, I know RLs been busy for you!